How do you manage the emotional work that comes with making memorial craft?
It’s cathartic but healing. Navigating loss didn’t come easy to me. I like to think that I do all the self-care things we all are told to do when we are grieving. I have routines and rituals—morning rituals, bath rituals, the ritual I do when I’m working on a piece, a yoga and meditation practice, et cetera. But there is a major difference: these losses are not mine to grieve. I’m just a witness, and I also get to be a witness to their healing. It’s a service I’m grateful to be able to offer and a privilege to witness healthy grief modeled, which helps me on my own journey. I get to experience a lot of joy—more than you may think. It’s so incredibly rewarding to receive the thankful emails I get after a person has received their piece. It’s really a dream, and I’m so sincerely grateful that this gets to be my life. I can’t say it enough!
Which memorial-related artists, craft exhibitions, or projects do you think the world should know about, and why?
The wind phone, originally created by Itaru Sasaki, is the most poignant memorial-related project I could ever think of. I felt such an urge to reach for my phone to call or text Jamie, even months after his passing. Intellectually I knew he was gone, but it felt like I would momentarily forget and then come crashing back to my new reality once my phone was in my hand. Even if you don’t have that experience, it’s a beautiful way to feel connected to your loved one. At Jamie’s funeral my father said to my friend Ian, “Just talk to him. You can still keep talking to him. I talk to my brother every day.” The wind phone is just a perfect project, in my opinion—that one-way conversation can be so healing.
Shivaun Watchorn is associate editor of American Craft.
Photo by Matthew Komatsu, courtesy of Wikimedia Commons
The wind phone in Ōtsuchi, Japan, was created by Itaru Sasaki in 2010 as a way to hold a one-way conversation with a cousin after the cousin’s death. A simple phone booth containing a disconnected phone and notebook allows visitors to speak to loved ones “on the wind.” Since then, reproductions have been built all over the world.